Sexual Insecurity

The desire to feel wanted and desired is described as a core emotional need across genders and sexual orientations. The insecurities a female partner experiences when a man shares a fantasy depend heavily on the nature of that fantasy. Validating a partner's attractiveness and the existing sex life can counteract insecurity. Men commonly experience insecurity around sexual competence and performance. A partner may interpret a request to try something new as evidence of dissatisfaction or reduced attraction. Fantasies involving non-monogamy can trigger jealousy in a female partner and raise concerns about whether she is enough. Introducing a fantasy in a threatening way can cause performance problems, including difficulty maintaining arousal. A fantasy should not be framed as evidence that current sex is lacking.